tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-95379612011-07-08T19:29:47.253+01:00The journey of a male abuse survivor along life's roadstarman's worldhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08169049193610162987noreply@blogger.comBlogger121100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9537961.post-1151778005177705232006-07-01T19:04:00.000+01:002006-07-01T19:20:05.190+01:00

Its summer again in England and as we have more hot nights, I am finding the nightmares are getting worse again; and no abuse survivor finds nightmares easy to cope with :(I sort of understand why this happen, and in some ways that does enable me to find ways of coping with them a little better. What the brain expects when you go to sleep is for your body temp to drop slightly. The hotter your

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Well after a lot of wondering about it, I decide to buy a new bread maker.I was somewhat dubious about if it would work well or not, but I have to say I am surprised how easy it is to use and how well it can make bread.I had tried several times to make bread by hand and it was hopeless, but this thing does all the hard work like kneading the bread dough and does an excellent job of it. Would

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A lot of people think that rape trauma syndrome only applies to female survivors, but in fact survivors of childhood sexual abuse and also male rape survivors often have many of the same reactions.In many ways it is also a part of post traumatic stress disorder and as such is a normal reaction to abnormal events.

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well it's been one of those days again. I have had about 4 hours sleep since 1oam on Sunday :( and my brain has gone soggy. Will be going and trying to get some sleep in a short while as i need to be out by 10am in the morning.Don't know who it is but some burk has been ringing me up each morning just before 9am and again tea time (for the last week) from an 08000 number, but not leaving a

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For the last 9 months or so I have been tracking the search positions in goggle for 48 keywords (search phrases) for my main website. Over the last 4 to 5 months many of the positions had dropped due to lack of time spent working on the site... Last weekend out 0f the 48 only 9 were in top 10 places.This last week I have done a lot of tinkering and now this weekend ...32 are in the top 1026 are

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Feeling rather lost this weekend, and alone, as I normally am in a chat room or on yahoo messenger, but at the moment I need to hide from the world to gain some strength back again. I know that I should not isolate myself so much, but maybe it for the best, and at the moment, being in chat or yahoo is not doing others any good and i only keep putting my foot in it *sigh* so it's best that I stay

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One of my brothers died on the 20th of Jan 2005 although i was only told by letter about a week later. I still have not contacted my family as yet and obviously not been to the funeral.Why the title Gonded ? well thats a Chris word...my inner child .... it means gone and not coming back again ever.It's sort of odd... i have not seen him for must be beest part of 8 years, and only twice within the

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It is not often talked about but male male rape does happen, far more than most people think, and of course male date rape happens as well as can been seen from another's blog enteryAs a male rape survivor myself I know that there are many myths surrounding male rape.The FBI estimate that at least 3% of rape victims (outside of institutions) are infact male, but most people who work in such

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Chris, my Inner Child, has been having a bit of a hard time of late, but is starting to show him self more again the last few days. He always finds winter hard to deal with as he does not like the long dark nights, as several bad things happened to him during this time of year. As we head towards spring things should start to become easier again for him, and since i have more nightmares when he

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Adult Sexual Abuse Survivors including those who are a Male Survivor like myself sometimes find the new year a hard time to cope with. For many it is a time to reflect on the past year.... A chance to look back and see how much they have improved or slipped back into old ways of thinking. This year for myself, I can see many improvements in the ways that I deal with life, more so than in past

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Xmas 2004 was better than I anticipated. As far as recent Christmas go this year was not a bad one. There were several Chris (my inner child) type films on the TV including Harry potter that went down well. In recent years I have not bothered with Chrismass decorations, but Chris decided he wanted to make some of those paper chains he liked to do as a child, so this year there are paper chains

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Well it's getting around to that time of year again when Christmas is on the way. Christmas is suppose to be a time for joy and hope, but for many abuse survivors like myself it seldom works out that way. So many times when young left alone, or worse still being left with those who had abused us. While all the big TV soaps show people gathering together there are many of us to whom even the

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